10 Ways To Practice Self- Love

What if we recharged ourselves as often as we did our phones?

Practicing self- love more can teach our children to love themselves too!

There are so many things to do all the time, my daily list of things to do often feels endless. So when I need to take time for self care, I often feel guilt over what to do, how long to take off and more.

It’s ironic because I spend most of my day posting inspirational quotes, reading all things spiritual, motivational and inspirational. But when push comes to shove, I find it a little hard to practice what I preach.

Since becoming a wife and a mother I spend most of my time thinking about my husband and my daughter’s needs and well being that I often forget about myself. My energy level is constantly in flux, and when I’m under stress or pressure I tend to sleep than the average person. (or maybe I’m just lazy lol)

That “guilt” you feel when deciding on taking a break to recharge, is a wasted emotion. in life , guilt is a waste of time, when thinking about life remember this: no  amount of guilt can change the past and no amount of anxiety can change the future.

So whenever you need some “me time” remind yourself that you will be so much more powerful and so much more productive after that time.

this may sound cliché but you cannot love others if you do not love yourself and there is no happiness without love so in the end, you have to do what’s best for you. So get over the guilt of taking time for self-care and self love! Here are 10 ways to practice self-love

Accept yourself

For many of us, there’s this feeling of not being good enough, wanting to be better, wanting to be in better shape or better at things. Something we are constantly thinking about but its there, in the background. what if we applied unconditional acceptance of who we are? What if we looked in the mirror and said you are fine, you are perfectly ok, you’re good? Could you accept every single part of your being?

I know what your thinking, well what’s wrong with wanting to better yourself or improve? Doesn’t feeling bad about ourselves motivate us to change? Yes, it can be a motivator but feeling bad about yourself can also be an obstacle. for example people who feel bad about themselves and their weight are likely to eat poorly, not exercise because that’s how they view themselves. They are likely to feel bad about themselves so they comfort themselves with food, alcohol, TV, Internet and other wasteful addictions. What if instead you loved your self, curves, the ugly and incompetent along with the beauty and brilliance? What if you took yourself so seriously, you loved and accepted yourself so much you treated your body and mind like the temple it is.  Love yourself and accept yourself flaws and all.

Use Self Affirmations / Daily Devotionals

Affirmations are short quick phrases that have positive impact on you. Affirmations and daily devotionals will empower and enable you to think more positively. People use affirmations differently. Some people speak them into a mirror when they wake up others read / write in the morning and run it through their mind.  I do it all! I’m in the mirror, and I’m journaling with my headphones on.

Surround yourself with Positive and Loving people

You know that quote “You are only going to be as good as the people you surround yourself with so be brave enough to let go of those who keep weighing you down.” well its true, you want to surround yourself with people that push you to do better. no drama no mess. just higher goals and higher vibrations. Good times and positive energy. No jealousy no hate. Simply a group of people, a family bringing out the absolute best in each other.  

Set boundaries Learn to say No

You need to have boundaries so that you wont feel used or mistreated. Before learning that setting boundaries is necessary I used to have people walk all over me, my friends used to tell me I didn’t have a back bone because I would just say yes to everything to make people happy but I learned through experience the power of saying No!  Its ok to make people feel accountable for their actions, choices and behaviors. It doesn’t mean that I am uncompassionate or uncaring. Setting boundaries will help me not to become bitter, angry or resentful. You shouldn’t have to sacrifice what you need in order to demonstrate your care for someone. the right people will want you to take care of yourself. they may not always understand your boundaries but they will respect them. your self care is more important than other peoples comfort.

Celebrate Everything

Not everyone is going to celebrate your growth, your transformation, your good news and higher vibrational journey. That’s why you have to. so celebrate your own personal victories because no one else understands what it took to accomplish them.

Start a Journal/ Planner Set Goals

As a part time blogger, with a full time job, a mother and wife constantly struggling to balance it all. I find journaling as a therapeutic approach to staying sane. Putting pen to a paper is an uncensored outlet for me to write down my thoughts and feelings freely, it also allows me to gain control and perspective about my problems while also formulating a more appropriate way to respond to the world. Journaling helps identify different triggers over time, allowing us to see when were at our best and when we are at our worst.

Practice Self Care

Self-care is not selfish its necessary. In fact self-care is selfless because you’re helping yourself be the best you, which will only benefit those around you. self care  doesn’t require much dedication. If you can develop small self care habits like exercising, eating healthy and practicing good hygiene.  You can easily practice self-love on a daily.

Educate yourself, Read more

When a question about a certain topic ops up, Google it.. Watch movies and documentaries. When something sparks your interest, read about it. read read read. Study, learn stimulate your brain. Don’t just rely on the school system , educate your beautiful mind, because ( cliché)   a mind a terrible thing to waste.

Practice Gratitude, Self Reflection

All good things come from gratitude. Be obsessively grateful, you’ll be happier thanking God for the life you already have. Gratitude shields you from negativity, rewires your brain, heals, and improves your sleep and self-esteem. Enhances law of attraction and improves relationships.

Therapy

Why would you consider therapy? Because expressing your thoughts ad feelings is incredibly powerful for enhancing our mental well-being. Suppressing them can lead to increasing levels of mental distress and unhealthy coping behaviors in the long run. Talking to a friend, family member or mentor can be helpful but sometimes you’d benefit more from a trained professional. For professional help there are many forms of therapy. There is cognitive behavioral therapy, counseling, mindful base therapy, humanistic therapy, interpersonal therapy and more. I think therapy can be a magical thing as long as people can be patient enough to find the type of therapy that best suits them and their needs.

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